my poor puppy was sideswiped by a drunk driver. i have found my self very sad over this. how do i cope. i remember his cute little ears flopping up as the red car slammed into him and i heard a whimper. shoudl i take medication?
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What is a dog?
The dog (Canis lupus familiaris) is a domestic subspecies of the wolf, a mammal of the Canidae family of the order Carnivora. The term encompasses both feral and pet variants. It is also sometimes used to describe wild canids of other subspecies or species. Over time, the dog has developed into hundreds of breeds with a great degree of variation. For example, heights at the withers range from just a few inches (such as the Chihuahua) to roughly three feet (such as the Irish Wolfhound); colors vary from white through grays (usually called blue) to black, and browns from light (tan) to dark ("red" or "chocolate") in a tremendous variation of patterns; and coats can be anything from very short to several centimeters long, from coarse hair to something akin to wool, straight or curly, or smooth.
What is grief?
Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioral, social and philosophical dimensions. Common to human experience is the death of a loved one, whether it be their friend, family, or other close to them. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement often refers to the state of loss, and grief to the reaction to loss. Losses can range from loss of employment, pets, status, a sense of safety, order or possessions to the loss of the people nearest to us. Our response to loss is varied and researchers have moved away from conventional views of grief (that is, that people move through an orderly and predictable series of responses to loss) to one that considers the wide variety of responses that are influenced by personality, family, culture, and spiritual and religious beliefs and practices.
What is grieving over a dog?
Normal.
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I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to lose a best friend.
When a person you love dies, it's natural to feel sorrow, express grief, and expect friends and family to provide understanding and comfort. Unfortunately, the same doesn't always hold true if the one who died was your companion animal. Many consider grieving inappropriate for someone who has lost "just a pet."
Nothing could be further from the truth. People love their pets and consider them members of their family. Caregivers celebrate their pets' birthdays, confide in their animals, and carry pictures of them in their wallets. So when your beloved pet dies, it's not unusual to feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your sorrow. Animals provide companionship, acceptance, emotional support, and unconditional love during the time they share with you. If you understand and accept this bond between humans and animals, you've already taken the first step toward coping with pet loss: knowing that it is okay to grieve when your pet dies.
Understanding how you grieve and finding ways to cope with your loss can bring you closer to the day when memories bring smiles instead of tears.
What Is the Grief Process?
The grief process is as individual as the person, lasting days for one person or years for another. The process typically begins with denial, which offers protection until individuals can realize their loss. Some caregivers may try bargaining with a higher power, themselves, or even their pet to restore life. Some feel anger, which may be directed at anyone involved with the pet, including family, friends, and veterinarians. Caregivers may also feel guilt about what they did or did not do, and may feel that it is inappropriate to be so upset. After these feelings subside, caregivers may experience true sadness or grief. They may become withdrawn or depressed. Acceptance occurs when they accept the reality of their loss and remember their animal companion with decreasing sadness. Remember, not everyone follows these classic stages of grief鈥攕ome may skip or repeat a stage, or experience the stages in a different order.
How Can I Cope with My Grief?
While grief is a personal experience, you need not face loss alone. Many forms of support are available, including pet bereavement counseling services, pet-loss support hotlines, local or online Internet bereavement groups, books, videos, and magazine articles. Here are a few suggestions to help you cope:
Acknowledge your grief and give yourself permission to express it.
Don't hesitate to reach out to others who can lend a sympathetic ear.
Write about your feelings, either in a journal or a poem.
Call your local humane society to see whether it offers a pet loss support group or can refer you to one. You may also want to ask your veterinarian or local animal shelter about available pet loss hotlines.
Explore the Internet for pet loss support groups and coping information.
Prepare a memorial for your pet.
Will My Other Pets Grieve?
Surviving pets may whimper, refuse to eat or drink, and suffer lethargy, especially if they had a close bond with the deceased pet. Even if they were not the best of friends, the changing circumstances and your emotional state may distress them. Give surviving pets lots of TLC ("tender loving care") and try to maintain a normal routine. It's good for them and for you.
ps- this video also helped alot with the grieving process.
http://www.indigo.org/rainbow/rainbow.sw...
You should self-medicate with a mixture of alcohol and OTC pain pills. This will enable you to extract your revenge on the drunken driver who murdered your innocent puppy.
No way. dont take medication. its totally normal to be upset.
u should get a new dog and forget about the old dog
Is it really murder if your dog was off leash and out where a drunk driver could run over him??
What you should do is go on a crusade against drunk drivers and people who let their dogs roam off leash. It won't help you get over the loss, but it will help others not get caught up in the same thing. Educate the world, it will help you get over the guilt.
go talk 2 a counceler..before u get worse...good luck
I hate drunk drivers!! I am so sorry to hear about your pet, but no you should not be taking ANY medication unless it is prescribed to you or unless it is an over the counter drug and only in the prescribed doses on the bottle. DO NOT take any unprescribed medication as this could be fatal to your health, especially if too much is taken. Just try to keep yourself occupied otherwise so you don't think about your puppy as much. I know you will still think about him, and it will be hard to get over him. It will take some time. But all will be ok. But there is no need to risk your health, your puppy wouldn't want that.
Yup..Take the whole bottle and wash it down with whiskey
Good Grief people...she's playing with you..She's obviously bored and nothing better to do. click on her name, then click on her questions, and her answers given to others. You'll see what I mean..Number two guy tried to warn y'all.
yes
evently you will get over it i no its hard i found my cat on the side of the road with its guts out and i was sad for quiet awile
i sugest try not to think about it hope you feel better soon and add me and ill keep in touch
ok it hurts to lose a puppy, kitten, dog cat whichever kind of pet you had. I've lost many pets as I've grown up.I"ve had pets die in my arms, die in their sleep, get put to sleep, ..it sucks. I cry harder when animals die versus when humans die to be honest. I have a ALMOST 16 year old dog that I've had since it was a puppy and I was only 3. I'm 19. I pay all his medical expenses.and sometimes he gets bad and I fear him dying on me. You will get through it. You don't need medications for it. When your puppy got hit, it was a quick pain...it wasnt long lasting meaning suffering...therefore now he's no pain anymore and he's in heaven playing with other dogs and pups. You just have to know that bad karma goes around and that drunk driver will pay for it in his own mistakes. Socialize with friends more. Don't be all cooped up inside your home.its good to get out during these situations.
I wish you luck.feel better you will make it through. Try getting your depression about it out on other things like exercise, music (which helps me), socializing with friends, walks, etc.
It'll be ok. Promise.
If you have hard time sleeping- definitely take sleep aid, because lack of sleep makes you become depressed. This would add to your burden.
I witnessed an accident involving two cute puppies firsthand when I was about four years old. It happened right in front of us kids. A truck backed up and ran one of two puppies who were tied together (one of the older kids tied them together) over. The stronger one managed to run to the side pulling the other one to the middle- the younger, cuter one ... Tabby went right under the tire. We stood there in disbelief for a second or two and then all whaled in unison. We cried and cried until we couldn't cry no more. Do the same... it's very important to cry. Don't hold back. God bless.
oh man i am sooooo sorry 2 hear that uhhhhhh!!!stuppid *** drunk driver dont worry wat goes around comes around he will get wats coming 2 him
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